Always ask for consent/permission before touching or engaging with someone. Ensure that both of you can make eye contact with each other to do so. Only proceed if the answer is enthusiastic and given freely.

No’s include but are not exclusive to: a ‘head shake’ “no thank you” “not right now” “I need a time out” and anything but an enthusiastic ‘nod’ or an enthusiastic “yes”
 

Your ticket to the party is not your ticket to every other guest. Just because someone looks like they are having a lot of fun in a play area does not mean they are automatically available to everyone else. Even if they are somewhat of an exhibitionist, they are still a consenting adult, and everyone should be approached respectfully.

Never assume. This includes expecting to play with a guest you have previously played with just because they are in the playroom. Always politely ask and if you aren’t met with enthusiastic consent, graciously move on.

Lastly not everyone is there to play, and even if they may wish to, they are exploring at their own pace. Never pressure anyone into anything. Doing so will get you removed from the event and barred from future attendance.

You wouldn’t sit on a strangers lap at a restaurant and start eating their meal just because they are also eating, so why treat a sex party any differently. 
 

Flirting is very much encouraged, as is making connections however this is a two-way street. Seeing something you like is not an invitation for you to go and hover over them while they are engaged with another guest.

Saying hi to someone and them leaving to wonder the venue is not an automatic invitation for you to follow them around and hover over them. Only join if invited.
 

Use a fresh condom with every new partner and/or sex toy. They are always available in playrooms and guests are also encouraged to bring their own with them. You are welcome to bring a little ‘play party essentials bag’ to hold onto at the party.

In addition to the above, all adults are responsible for their own sexual health. Adults participating in a non-monogamous lifestyle are expected to have regular sexual health screenings. For further advise on this, you can contact your local clinic.  
 

We appreciate a drink may get you in the party mood or ease the nerves a little, however drinking too much hinders your ability to practise consent safely, and thus enjoy yourself. Anyone who is too intoxicated will be removed from the event by our team for both their own, and other guest safety.
 

Your own safety and boundaries are very important. No one knows them unless you express them, and you also have the right to backtrack your boundaries at any moment. You do not owe anyone anything other than respect.

Agreeing to engage in play with someone, and then changing your mind if you begin to feel uncomfortable is absolutely fine. This rule is relevant to strangers, friends and even play partners if a moment does not feel quite right.
 

We are there for you and your comfort and safety is paramount. This includes you feeling unsure of now to navigate a certain situation or even conversation, we are here for you whether it is your first event or your hundredth event.
If there is something we haven’t spotted right away that you can alert us to, we can then deal with the issue and remove the guest in question instantly. There are always multiple people available, and you should never feel shy about informing us of anything, no matter how small.  

BDSM scenes of any kind are not to be interuptered. This is a non-negociable. 

These are both thrilling and beautiful to watch but are very specific to those involved, others can only join if invited and consent is given by everyone in the 'scene' These require an extra level of communication and skill to explore. 

BDSM scenes include but are not exclusive to: impact play, wax play, electro play, rope play, restraint play. 

We will be delving into the wonderful world of BDSM in the coming weeks. 
 

Avoid dutch courage and attend with an open mind. Feel free to inform a host ahead of the event or upon arrival that you are a little nervous and shy. We are happy to talk you through what to expect from the event and help introduce you to other guests.

When you arrive at the event you’ll be welcoming by our hosts and then you’ll be surrounded by a group of kind and respectful guests.

Don’t arrive with the expectation that you will or must have sex just because of the nature of the event. Your focus should be to soak up the liberating atmosphere and make new connections. Anything else is simply a bonus. The most fulfilling sexual experiences are those fuelled from electric mutual chemistry and consent. 

Explore your own boundaries and desires in your mind before you attend and don’t let what others are doing dictate what you do if you aren’t ready to explore something just yet. Get comfortable expressing your boundaries and know that you can re-establish them at any time as what you are comfortable with is specific to each moment. In additional to this, if you have strong desires to explore something with someone, only do so with their ensuastic consent. The parties are a safe space for people in our exciting community to share together. 

Be sure to read up on the dynamics of the party to ensure it matches your desires before you book to attend. For example, if you are a single girl wishing to connect with single guys only, The Masons Lodge event for couples & single girls may not be for you. 

Get well acquainted with the rules and etiquette shared above ahead of attending, especially those on consent and not making assumptions. The hosts are available during the evening if there is any moment you are unsure about.

Avoid dutch courage and attend with an open mind. Feel free to inform a host ahead of the event or upon arrival that you are a little nervous and shy. We are happy to talk you through what to expect from the event and help introduce you to other guests.

Establish your mutual boundaries ahead of attending the event and then only attend if you are both comfortable with your pre agreed boundaries and are fully ready to be in a sensual environment together. We recommend exploring the party at the pace of the ‘slower’ person, so nothing is rushed.

Realise all other guests have their own sets of boundaries that may be different to yours, and that is ok. Some may be seasoned party goers; others may also be first timers. As long as you explore respectfully, there is no judgement on what you are or aren’t comfortable with yet.

Communicating before during and after can mean it can be a playful and enjoyable experience for both of you so arrive with an open mind of how you may feel once your initial boundaries are communicated. Establishing what you are both comfortable with in practise can take a little bit of trial and error but can be a very fulfilling experience for you both.

If any personal issues arise between yourself and your partner, take the issue outside of the party/playroom discreetly. If you need assistance or advise from one of the hosts, do let us know, we are happy to help and experienced doing so.

Get well acquainted with the rules and etiquette shared above ahead of attending. The hosts are available during the evening if there is any moment you are unsure about.